“The funny thing about the questions of life is that the ones we ask at the end are the ones we should begin with.” – David Green
How much time do you spend thinking about what a perfect life would look like? I never used to but now I do; in fact I’m as focused on it as any goal I’ve ever had. Let me clarify. I’m not suggesting that I, or my life, could possibly be found without fault. None of us can make that claim.
Still, wouldn’t aiming for a perfect life be a well-intentioned goal? Assuming you think this a good idea, here are some questions you may have: What does that look like? Where do I start? How do I measure it? What should I focus on?
I’m glad you asked. Start with the end in mind. In his new book, Giving It All Away … And Getting It All Back Again: The Way Of Living Generously, David Green comments on asking questions such as this:
“The funny thing about the questions of life is that the ones we ask at the end are the ones we should begin with. It is tough to craft a meaningful life without considering our end: What do we hope for, what do we dream for, relative to our lives, our family, our children? … I hope that some of the questions we put off – about our mortality, about our sense of meaning and success – we can begin to address right now.”
Sounds right doesn’t it? We seem to wait until it’s almost too late to consider what’s most important to us, leaving little time or hope of achieving our goals. That works about as successfully as waiting until we’re 75 to start saving for retirement.
This is why in our Halftime Institute Fellows Program we initiate thinking around Perfect Life Scenarios early on. You can’t move forward if you don’t know where you’re headed. But if you define who you are and what you most want your one life to count for, you can put goals, strategies, and guardrails in place to make sure you are moving from where you are to where you want your life to be.
Even with the best of plans life can still have a way of taking us off track. We’ve all been there. That’s why sometimes it simply boils down to doing the best we can, when we can, with what we have. The key word there is “best.” Let me know what comments or questions you have. I’d love to help.
Blessings on your continuing journey,
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