A Four-Legged Stool: What Are You Going To Do About It?

“Those who say it cannot be done should not interrupt the person doing it.” ― Chinese Proverb

We recently saw a random quote on the internet that said “Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes.” So simple and yet so true! This quote’s author wasn’t noted but this person figured something out.

These past few weeks we have been writing about the four steps to moving from a life of mediocrity and discontent to a life of greater joy, impact, and balance that you may be seeking. Today we focus on the fourth and final step. If you missed any of the previous steps, you can catch up by clicking here.

With each of the previous three steps we’ve used a metaphor of constructing a four-legged stool to add some perspective to the process. Now, let’s get right to the fourth and final leg of this journey.

The Fourth Leg: What Are You Going to Do about It?

The final leg of your four-legged stool is just as important as the first three. You might have perfectly constructed your stool to this point, but if this final leg is not in place it means little. You can sit on a stool of three legs, but it will never feel complete or like you’ve “made it.” That’s because something is missing … this final step.

To construct your fourth leg, answer this question: “What are you going to do about it?”

A popular quote says, “With knowledge comes responsibility.” Simply said, when we learn new things we take on an inherent responsibility to use that knowledge appropriately. We can’t run from what we learn; we are meant to put our newfound knowledge into action.

However you answered the questions to the first three legs of your stool, they mean little if you don’t add this fourth leg and begin to implement the life changes required to move forward!

Yet, we need to be careful not to get so lost in our own busyness that that we forget who we are and why we are here. We need balance even in how we choose the things we spend our time doing. We can easily focus so much of our time on keeping up with the Joneses—and other activities that have no connection to our first three stool legs—that we choke out the very things that bring life and passion.

All of this may seem like pie-in-the-sky thinking that can be hard to wrap your head around. But, if you start with thinking about the things crowding into your schedule every day, there are likely some that have nothing to do with your life purpose.

Do any of them have anything to do with your life purpose?

If you are like most and find that your calendar is filled with lot of activity but very little purpose, now is the time to begin reprioritizing your time. Start small and focus on replacing just one or two unnecessary items on your calendar with doing things that you love to do and the world needs from you. When you’ve made that transition, do it again. Keep going until you made a significant transition in how you are spending your life.

Don’t just muddle through your life, letting unnecessary activities fill your calendar day after day. We each have the same twenty-four hours to work with each day. But none of us know how many days we have left, so let’s make today, and each day, count to the full!

Answering the four questions we’ve asked in the past weeks can be difficult. We know that and we can help. If you get stuck at any point along the way, drop us a note. We’d love to walk you through whatever life transition you are facing right now.

If you want your life to be different, you’re going to have to start living differently. “Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes.”


Blessings on your continuing journey,

Bob and Susan Karcher




A Four-Legged Stool:What Are You Living For?

“Every decision you make, makes you. Never let other people choose who you’re going to be.” – Cassandra Clare

We have talked with too many people in their later years that, when looking back over their lives, are startled with just how unfulfilling and pointless their lives have been. Oh, they may have worked hard, made it to the top of their organizations, and are revered in their social circles. Still, there is little contentment.

As they put everything they had into attaining worldly success, they look back now to see that the world didn’t provide what they were looking for … things like true love, joy, deep friendships, and the knowledge that they did it “right”.

When your days on earth are over, will you discover that you wasted your life on meaningless things that have no lasting or eternal value? If you died tomorrow, what would others say?

The Third Leg: What Are You Living For?

In our last couple of posts we’ve been busy building a four-legged stool. The first leg of this stool was added by answering the question “Who are you?”. The second leg asked the question “Why are you here?”. Now it’s time to add a little stability to your four-legged stool by answering this question: “What are you living for?”

You see. You might know who you are and even why you are here. But, then you have a decision to make. You can choose to live according to your life’s purpose … or run from it. We have seen people do both and we can say, without any hesitation, that those who followed a life based on who they are and why they are here lived lives of much greater joy, impact, and balance than those that did not.

One of the most influential people during the transition from our days of keeping up with the Joneses to where we are today was Dr. Gary Miller, then provost and senior vice president at Biola University, where Bob earned a degree in organizational leadership.

During a graduation-day luncheon, Dr. Miller was the keynote speaker, and he had the foresight to ask the group some tough questions. His questions, roughly paraphrased, went something like this: “What will you do with all that God has given you—your life, career, experiences, and now, this new degree? Will you seek the things of this world: money, status, position, power, and fame? Or will you seek the things of the Kingdom? Will you seek to use what God has given you to live out His purpose, serve others, and make a difference in the world?”

Ouch! Hard-hitting questions, but we knew our answers immediately. We chose the latter. We admit we had absolutely no idea then what that meant or how we were going to live out our answers, but it was exactly the right questions at the right time. It pierced our hearts and sent us on a long quest to discover who we were, why we were here, and what we were living for. Bob Buford, Halftime Institute founder and bestselling author of Halftime, relates in his book how he came to his decision on what he was living for. In his book, Bob Buford recounts being challenged with a similar question. The question he was asked is, “What’s in your box?” This box could contain the one thing, and only one thing, that at its core would define what his life would stand for.

Buford was a very successful businessman and could easily have chosen from a long list of goals and accomplishments to put into this box that would define his life. What did he choose? Jesus! Jesus was the one thing in Buford’s life that rose above all others. Jesus was a nonnegotiable aspect of his life that was more important to him than anything else.

What are you living for? There are multiple ways we could ask you this question. The particular phrasing of the question isn’t important—but your answer is! Take as much time as you need to fully consider this question and the real implications it has for living a life focused on those things that matter most to you. It is that important. Your response just might surprise you.

Stay tuned for our next post when we will cover the final leg of this four-legged stool.


Blessings on your continuing journey,

Bob and Susan Karcher

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It's in Christ that we find out who we are and what we are living for.

Ephesians 1:11